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Cross the Island is a 7-week marriage course designed to help couples heal from unwanted sexual behavior, rebuild trust, and restore intimacy with God, themselves, and each other. Through weekly video sessions and live group coaching, you’ll uncover the root causes of shame and secrecy, end the cycle of pornography and addiction, and learn practical tools for communication, connection, and integrity.

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My Grace is NOT perfect, But Gods Grace IS… A process of healing a marriage after infidelity
My Grace is NOT perfect, But Gods Grace IS… A process of healing a marriage after infidelity

I started writing a journal 2 weeks after I learned that my husband had been dealing with a sexual addition from the age of 8 yrs old, something that ultimately led to us losing our jobs, our careers and our known “identity”.

HOW DO YOU NOT ONLY SURVIVE, BUT GROW AND GET BETTER?

Here's part of my story

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Cross The Island
Cross The Island

Why circumnavigating the issue could be hurting you more than you think.

THE ISLAND IN MY LIFE WAS AN ADDICTION THAT I HAD BEEN KEEPING SECRET FOR OVER 2 DECADES.

DELAYING FINALLY CAUGHT UP WITH ME IN A BIG WAY...

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Ben's Story

I grew up a pastors kid (PK) in Juneau, Alaska, and after marrying my wife Heather, we became staff pastors along with my parents. – After more than a decade on staff we felt the call to leave the nest and move to Portland,  OR to plant a church. We packed up our life and 3 small kiddos and headed South – and yes, everything is South when you live in Alaska – on a journey of faith.

Seven months later the church was launched with great momentum and lots of amazing people.

But there was a problem...

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TRANSPARENCY Confession is more than admitting ones sins. It’s about allowing others into your struggle in order to heal. Here is a snippet from a blog on our CTI website: “After my husband felt the freedom that came with complete co
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FAITH is how we believe for better things. “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.” Hebrews 11:1 NIV Faith is our confidence to see healing and miracles… beyond what we’ve alrea
Has unwanted sexual behavior impacted your marriage and intimacy?   Do you feel disconnected from your spouse?    Would you like to safeguard your marriage from sexual sin?   Are you tired of making excuses?   Are you tired o
"We can’t defeat control with control. We defeat it with surrender” -Ben Rose So then, surrender to God. Stand up to the devil and resist him and he will flee in agony. ‭‭James 4‬:‭7‬ ‭TPT‬‬ But seek first the kingdom of God and hi
One of the ways a person keeps circling around and around an issue, but never crossing over to the other side, is by using COPING mechanisms like: Food -overeating Drink - alcohol or coffee or sugary drinks Porn - false intimacy Crying - silently or
When we begin to understand that sex and sexuality are a gift from God (a GOOD GIFT not the leather belt from your grandma with your name branded on it that’s 3 sizes too small kind of gift) we begin to think differently about it. The enemy o